Have you ever received (or given) either of these pieces of advice to someone? If you're like me, you battle with the concept of both. The forgive part is indisputable....but should we or should we not forget what caused the need for forgiveness in the 1st place??
Some say forgive and forget because there is no true forgiveness if you continue to hang on to the memory of what happened.
Some say forgive but never forget because if you forget the past, you're bound to repeat it.
But is a hybrid of the 2 possible? How about we forgive and forget the transgression but NOT forget the CAUSE of the transgression? Sometimes as humans we do someone wrong as a result of THEIR actions. Now I'm not saying that 2 wrongs make it right, but if the reason for your forgiveness is due to something you did to the person, then should you NOT remember not to do it again? (Confused yet? LOL)
I guess what I'm saying is, when applicable, forgive what they did to you, forget what they did to you, but remember not to do whatever you did to drive them to do it in the first place (if you did anything at all). Now everyone's accountable.
(So now if your head isn't hurting...)
Here's today's thought:
When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.
~ Epictetus ~
Two Fingers, One Love